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The question is:
Do you believe that your kids activities on the computer should be monitored by you or do you believe that there should be no recording of kids your kids activities on the computer.
My belief on this is It's my kid, my computer, my house. Now I don't have any children yet but if I did I would want to know what my child was doing on the computer.
Just trying to get your thoughts, and opinions on this.
I give this question a yes and no answer
Yes I would want to know what my kid was doing for the reason that I wouldn't want them to learn how to do or build something that would hurt themselves or others around them and viewing inappropriate content
For my no answer I want to be able to trust my kid to the point that what they are doing on the computer is teaching them useful things that they can use
I think almost all parents will say YES to monitoring their children's Intenet activity.
Perhaps the better question is "Do you believe that parents have, in an attempt to head off questionable or malicious activities conducted via the Internet, a responsibility to teach their children good morals, thereby building trust and reducing the need for constant monitoring?
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My dad checks sometimes what sites I have visited (I just clear the history lol, but sometimes I forget), he caught me in the past when I went to some porn sites(2y ago, now I use kazaa for that, maybe once a week). There is nothing wrong with it when parents monitor these activities but things you say on msn and such, I think that goes to far. Monitoring your child? I think there just has to be some trust.
I wouldn't actually monior everything like IM's etc, but I would like to check the computer out every couple weeks to know what they've been getting on.
When my sones reach an age where they are allowed to use the net unsupervised (think teen age years) I will monitor their activiety, especaly in chat or mesenger. Kids are nieve (I am not that removed form my teenage years to think other wise). There is a special form of arrogence and ignorace that comes with being a teen, as a parent it is my job to let them explore the world, and stay safe at the same time.
Do I trust my kids, yes, do I trust the nut jobs on the net, no. So I have two chocies, eaither shater my kids innocence at a very young age, or let them grow up on their own but monitor their actiities to make sure they don't get hurt.
cheyenne1212 That sounds normal to me but they will just delete the Temporary Internet Files/ Clear the history so how can you check them then? When you really want to monitor everything your child does (IM's included)I think you're sick and have to go to a psychiatrist(don't know how it's spelled but you know what I mean). Even installing some monitoring program or restricting access in IE from various sites goes to far, that means you don't trust your kid.
What cheyenne1212 says is normal for me.
bballad my parents don't monitor me at all and I'm pretty normal I guess, you have to let your kid be more independent, they learn by their own what's good and what's not(when it deals with internet stuff ofcourse)
Monitoring the websites they visit isn't a big problem. On IM's they can talk to their friends about sex/drugs/maybe hacking or something like that. I don't think your kid would appreciate it when you do that. I smoked weed a few times, but I'm not stupid enough to continue smoking it, I don't want to get addicted to it, for cigs it's already to late lol.
I don't see why one would be sick if they monitored their kids activities. Your right the kids probably will delete the history, and cookies, but what are they gonna do if I have a spy program on there that they don't know about? I believe its every parents right to do what they feel neccessary to protect there kids.
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you have to let your kid be more independent, they learn by their own what's good and what's not
Do I sense a bit of contradiction here.Quote:
I smoked weed a few times, but I'm not stupid enough to continue smoking it, I don't want to get addicted to it, for cigs it's already to late lol.
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There are free programs available to recover internet activities, even if you have flushed the tif files and flushed the history. So count yourself lucky that your dad did not discover them. In my humble opinion, monitoring IMs is not is not "sick." Consider all of the teenage suicides being coordinated via online dating services and IM. (Especially Japanese Teens) If parents knew about the discussions many of these death could have been prevented and healthy lives restored. I realize that there is a fine line bordering on the realm of over protective, but keeping tabs on children is essential for their well being.
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The mentally disturbed are persecuted here in America, and I say rightfully so!
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Its tough decision to find out where the line has to be drawn as far as monitoring your children's online activities. And its not as simple as using an age guildeline. It really (imho) depends on the parent(s) relationship with their child and his/her personality. I mean if your kid is one of those always honest, respectul, etc parents-dream type kids, then really just cursory checking up on histroy and such would suffice. On the other hand you could have a child that frequently lies, etc who would require considerably more effort to keep tabs on. Also another good reason for always having a certain element of monitoring capablity is to keep p2p apps off your childs computer, as you could end up facing a lawsuit from the RIAA, as some families are already dealing with situations like that.
cheyenne1212 > I agree with you that is you provide the internet connection and the computer, to a certain extent that voids a level of privacy for the child, because its your property they are using as privilege, not a right.
I don't see anything wrong with checking what your kid is doing online, I even think its a good idea to have a decent idea what your kid is doing while on the internet... the world is full of wierdos and kids don't need to be involved with them and their sick idea. If watching your kid's every move online is what it takes to keep them safe, then so be it...
I think bballad said it best when he said:
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Do I trust my kids, yes, do I trust the nut jobs on the net, no. So I have two chocies, eaither shater my kids innocence at a very young age, or let them grow up on their own but monitor their actiities to make sure they don't get hurt.
As a parent my self yes i do monitor my children activities on the internet it not because i don't trust them i don't trust the internet too many sick people in this world today.
And why should they have to go to IM's to talk about this stuff when that what i'm here for.Quote:
On IM's they can talk to their friends about sex/drugs/maybe hacking or something like that
There's ways of recovering these files so don't think once you deleted them they are gone for goodQuote:
That sounds normal to me but they will just delete the Temporary Internet Files/ Clear the history so how can you check them then?
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cheyenne1212 > I agree with you that is you provide the internet connection and the computer, to a certain extent that voids a level of privacy for the child, because its your property they are using as privilege, not a right.
I couldn't agree more :thumbsup:
I can see where your coming from syini666. If my kids are very trustworthy then I'll check on them once in a while, however, if they're lying, and everything else then you better bet I'm gonna have a full court press on them. :)
But also Like most everyone else is saying, I would not want some weirdo talking to my kid about sex, drugs, or if they want to meet up.
IMHO my kids have no rights only privlages untill they are supprting themselfs/ are adults. (if the teen me had heard this he would laughed in my face, but haveing kids greatly changes your view of life.)Quote:
Originally posted here by Syini666
cheyenne1212 > I agree with you that is you provide the internet connection and the computer, to a certain extent that voids a level of privacy for the child, because its your property they are using as privilege, not a right.
I monitor my teenagers internet access.
They have no access to the internet from the computers in their rooms. They have to use the one in the family room that everyone can see the monitor. Histories and cookies are checked randomly. They don't IM or chat.
Loving father or ruthless dictator.... future historians will decide.
I agree you have to keep an eye on what the kids are doing on the web. I have a 16 year daughter and we have a very open relationship but I still check up on her and whats she doing. The thing is she doesnt mind me doing this because in her words it shows how much I care about her well being. She is gone this summer to camp and before she left she asked to to check on her email for her. So by all means if you have to put on a program that logs where they go or what ever but do check up on the kids. Protect them at all costs from the pervs out there.
What kind of responsible parent WOULDN'T watch their kids on the net? We live in a dangerous, screwed up world and it's our job to keep our children safe.
Ok, when I am old, like you guys ;) lol I'll probably want to monitor my kids activities too. Monitoring public chatrooms isn't a problem but things like MSN Messenger, I don't think that's necessary because probably everybody who is on their list is also a real life friend, at least that's how it is with me. But I guess it's pretty normal when you wanna know who is talking to your kid and especially what they say, you're probably not really interested in what your kid says but what the other person says.