Spy program...

[Ryan Nyquist]

I think my son on another computer in my house is accessing adult sites, graphic sites, entering adult chat sessions because he is always on the computer and everytime I walk in the room he shuts off the monitor (not the computer but the monitor) and then when I leave he turns it back on. I am looking for a spy program to monitor what he is going to/doing on this computer. Does anyone know if there is a free (non-destructive) remote spy program that I can download to catch screen images and keylog with?

(Please do not flame because I am NOT looking for a trojan horse program I am looking for a NON-destructive program just to check out what he's up to.)

[Mahakaal]

Well...IMHO...depending on how old he is...why not just talk to him about it? Since there is obviously something going on. In the long run, again IMHO, that will be better for the both of you. He won't resent you for invading his privacy,and embarassing him...try this page for some tips
http://www.safekids.com/child_safety.htm

[allenb1963]

As a father I have to say this....why are you 'pussy-footing' around on this? Walk into his room, tell him to move out of the way and turn the moniter on. You're the parent, you set the rules of the house. While I recognise that everyone has a right to privacy, the fact that he turns the moniter off when when you come into the room indicates he has something to hide, and as long as he's a minor under your roof, you're responsible for his behaviour...PERIOD. Dig into his temporary internet files and click on the .htm extensions to view the pages he's looking at. Tell him that the next time he kills the moniter he loses computer privilidges for x amount of time. Make him use a chat client that logs the conversations. Spying is just going to teach him that it's ok to invade someones privacy without their knowledge and thats not a good message for a parent to send.

BTW...I've already been through this myself with my 13 yr. old....I let his mother confront him about the porn surfing....the embarrasment drove the point home so well that we have NEVER had the problem since.

[Darksnake]

Dont forget that the history folder works to save all the webpages he visits as well, plus its easier to see where he has been with the history folder. If you have to use a spy program, get a keylogger.
As allen said embarrassing him, by confronting him about it should be enough for him to stop. After you confront him about it give him the "birds and bees" speech to really get him embarrassed.

[SoggyBottom]

I agree with Darksnake, have a look at the history folder, do a find on *.jpg files and have a look at the Temporary Internet Files directory.

Thats how I sprung my old man surfing for porn when I was a kiddy

[Ryan Nyquist]

Thanks everyone. I'll take a look at the Temporary Internet Files, and the History folders for anything out of the ordinary.

[Terr]

Still, the best solutions are probably the non-technological ones, if you want a long-term trusting relationship with your child and all that parental stuff.

[xpaciscool]

hrm.. Ryan , im not believing you that your son iz lookin at porn sites, i think you are just trying to ask us for a spy program to spy on one of your friends. Its kinda obvious when you hav posted 152 times and you have a ton of neg anti points.

[allenb1963]

Interestingly enough, I actually came across a news story that seems to validate my statement about mothers made above. If interested, use the link below...

http://www.reuters.com/news_article....toryID=1409957

[retoor]

As a son (even though I am 19) I would have to say that the best approach is to do as allen suggested! It would stop him from surfing pron sites (if he even is doing that), but you would have quite a big argument about it I guess! No one likes to get busted!