Well one of the admins from my my isp just rang and discussed it wit me. He says that they do get their ip addresses from comindico, "maria" is probably who she says she is. but even if she is american computer crime laws have no juristiction in aus so they cant do anything about it. he says that because our ips are dynamically provided, she probably was getting attacked by someone using the same ip previously. she probly just thought "mmm... ip adress" and traced it to me while i was using it. "probly just an overzealous sysadmin taking their job a bit too seriously." he told me.

anyway he told me that if she hassles me again i can tell her that if she keeps it up i can go to her employers with a complaint and get her off my back because it is harrassment. so im pretty happy with the result of that thanks alot you guys! also keep the comments coming about the ports i had open and stuff and how to fix it.

cheers all!