Port and process lists...
Great port lookup web site: http://www.treachery.net/security_tools/ports/
Good list of ports at http://keir.net/portlist.html
FPort is good, as Showtime8000 indicated, but I have had problems with it on XP (at least the Home version).
I know this isn't specifically what you asked about but it might help to check what processes are running here's a few good tools (note: I dont work for or am affiliated with any of these companies):
- PrcView at http://www.prcview.com
- Process Explorer by SysInternals at http://www.sysinternals.com
- PSList by SysInternals at http://www.sysinternals.com
Hope this helps you sleep at night! ;)