Happiness = Getting along in AO

Here lately it seems we have had an over abundance of people spreading hate and discontent in the AO forums. We have several individuals that would seem to have nothing better than to turn every thread into a flame war or to attempt to cause conflict. Myself in general have a happy go lucky kind of a look on life. A live and let live attitude in like. I believe this to be rooted deep in our own self esteem and worth. If one can't be happy, them one can't get along.
What then is happiness? Probably it is best described as a sense of well-being, a feeling of self-approval. When we like and approve of ourselves, we become more outgoing, more social. We make more contacts, we are more social and reaching out. We touch others with our sense of well-being.
Our sense of well-being makes us happy and we are self-satisfied. Then we reach out to others and make loving contact in friendly relations. We engage in social behavior. In a way, we are spreading our good will about ourselves and we make others happy.
Happy people are social; with the absence of joy, persons tend to cut themselves off from others and spend waking hours alone and turned away from social situations. And this solitude reinforces the aloneness.
The capacity for happiness, for feelings of joy, must be developed by ourselves. In the past our failure has been to wait for happiness, to believe that, at some point in our lives, we will be happy. Studies of people now show that those who are happy worked at being so.
To be happy, we must develop a positive attitude about life. That is a prerequisite for happiness. We automatically cancel any chance of happiness if we start with feelings such as, "Nothing good ever happens to me, " or "Life is a big mess and I hate it."
The pleasure we will get from life is not fore-ordained. We must work toward developing it. It is, in fact, for us to control, for us to decide, for us to pursue. Pessimists are rarely happy, being too consumed with what has gone wrong and what will go wrong.

So in conclusion one must only try to please oneself and become happy. Then you can spead the wealth. Don't be content on starting flame wars or being nonproductive. Contribute and become an attribute to the forum. Hate only brings us down, and brings about unhapiness. So if one can't contribute in a kind way. Then dont. It IS that simple. You can always agree to dis agree. Be be polite and kind about it.

To all in the group. Flamers and non-flamers alike. Be happy, enjoy life and most of all be kind to your fellow man. Because then one you are unkind to today, you may need the support of tomorow.

Peace :hippy:

"Some men, you just can't reach. So, you get what we had here last week, which is the way he wants it..... Well, he gets it. But I don't like it, anymore than you men." -Cool Hand Luke

Well, you have to figure....there are so many people here and so many cultures represented, that there's bound to be some discontent. I'll agree that there are a few that seem to have nothing to better to do than rain on everyone else's parade, but those are everywhere. I think that one solution would be to place a test that you have to pass in order to be a member. Not too much trouble, but just enough to make potential troublemakers think that it's not with the bother.

A test would be a good idea, although that might block the people who are here to actually learn something. As much as I don't like it either, it is a part of life. I say we start a stop the Flaming group. :)

xmaddness
Member: Stop the Flaming ;)

{P²P}Apocalypse, what can I say. That was an excellent post. At AO we should all be trying to help each other out - answer questions, post tutorials and interesting articles. There are too many posts to the forums that are just drivel. People should be trying to get together and start projects, sharing common interests.

If you see people that are in your area (or not) who post about the same things that you do, pm them and say, would you be interested in working on such and such a project. We should all be trying to expand our knowledge and try new things.

I am also sorry to see that there are people who have posted saying that they don't want to be part of AO anymore because of flames and certain people's negative attitudes. That sucks because some of them posted quite good stuff and I'd hate to see them leave and never come back. Unfortunately, there's not really much that can be done about this sort of thing.

On the flipside, I can say that I have met some really cool people at AO who are kind, intelligent and always willing to help you out or just share ideas with. And this has made it all worth while :).

and besides... flame wars are sooo late 80's :P

Okay, for all of you who remember first hand the Rodney King trial, and the LA riots I would just say.....CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG!!!
Lol...it would sure be nice if the flamers were automatically hidden posts. But that would take some gremlin in the basement reading everyone's posts, and deciding who to post and who to hide...guess it isn't such a great idea after all! ;)

There's nothing I hate more than an optimist.
Optimists are people who always come out
ahead, like the execs at ENRON.

Optimists are always trying to sell you something.
Ever notice that salesmen and TV evangelists
are all optimists? That's because they are optimistic
about getting their hands on your money, or your
girlfriend.

Optimists start things that they can't finish,
like wars and bogus businesses (see paragraph one).

When You're in trouble, your optimist friends disappear
because they don't like being involved with problems.

MURPHY'S LAW:
"If anything CAN go wrong, it WILL.
This is not just a source of cute jokes.
Actually, it is a brilliant, if obvious, principle
of sound engineering.
A device with less moving parts has fewer
parts to fail.

I heard a stock market analyst on the radio
talking about the ENRON disaster. His company
was one of the few that was not advising its
clients to buy ENRON stock.
The reason:
ENRON'S business was so complicated, that the
analyst couldn't UNDERSTAND it.
That.s Murphy's law at work.
:cool:

I must say that I have been somewhat disenchanted with the amount of **** that has recently been passed through these forums.

I first joined AO as a place to refer to/ask questions/provide help /etc.. in an attempt to help me do my job, as well as help other people out there.

But of late the amount of quality postings has been somewhat lacklustre.

I agree that flaming ignorant script kiddie/newbies is not the answer. Ignoring them is the answer, I believe.

all i can say is that i'm sick of the hatred that is going on...this site is for helping people not putting people down

Jesus said this: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Treat other people the way you want to be treated. There's also another verse from the Bible that I think speaks to this: "Whatever you sow, you shall also reap." When we speak or write, we're planting seeds with our words. The crop we harvest depends on the seeds we plant. If we sow harmful, hateful, negative words, we shouldn't be surprised if that's what we get in return. Treat other people the way you wanted to be treated. Maybe if we all followed that, some of the anger around here would subside. :)

To tell the truth, I'm getting a little bored with all these "behavioural" and "last post" threads...:o


Lighten up people. It's the 'net! People come and people go. Some people are jerks, others funny...some just plain stupid.....I like 'em all.....



And what's going on with all these religous quotes, preacherman481? It's bad enough that people come knocking on my front door, invading my privacy and trying to shove their religion down my throat but now I have to put up with it here at AO!?



Anyway, I feel better now.....might go and have a lay down......................... :airoff:

well said Apocalypse....

Im with you Conf1rm3d_K1ll. Save the religious rants for SUnday mornings, dont waste them in a IT Security Forum!!

Soggy Bottom and Confirmed Kill,
I don't want to start a flame war, so this will be my only reply on this subject.

1. Yes, this is an IT security website. But, this particular thread was not security/technical related. It was in the General Chit Chat forum. If the thread was based on Linux vs. Windows that might be different. The original post by P2P was on the topic of hate and discontent in the forum. In my opinion, hate and discontent have spiritual overtones, and I should be able to respond to them in a spiritual way.

2. Two, I am not trying to shove religion down anyone's throat. I don't condemn anyone who doesn't share my views. Please see my posts on the "Christianity" thread in the Cosmos forum. But I do have a right to express myself. I feel that if other people can use profanity in their posts, I can quote some Bible verses in mine. I don't feel that I am expressing my opinions in an offensive way.

3. Three, you don't have to listen to me. Just don't read what I post. And, I will not be offended if you add me to your ignore list. That might be the best solution. That way I can express myself as I think best and you won't have to see what I think.

"For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son, so that whoever believes in him may not perish, but have eternal life." John 3:16

Ah geeze...I have to say this, so forgive me.

Preacher was in no way shoving anything down your throat. He was simply telling you what Jesus said about the topic at hand, whether you belive He is the Living Son of God is up to you. However you cannot deny the fact the he once walked the earth. And said the VERY wise words...: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Good advice in my point of veiw. So if he wouldnt have said "Jesus said...." you would'nt have said anything about religion......

P2P - it is the nature of things. A good post btw. Maybe if we ignore the offenders they will leave, besides, the moderators can "spank" the kiddies when they get out of hand.

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Originally posted here by gold eagle
P2P - it is the nature of things. A good post btw. Maybe if we ignore the offenders they will leave, besides, the moderators can "spank" the kiddies when they get out of hand.

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Wack... Spank them good....LOL :spank:

I think you're on the right track. Ignoring them is going to have to be the way. Apparantly they can't be happy and contribute to the group.

Are you insinuating that I am one of these "offenders", by not responding to my post?

who are you talking to Dr T? Me, p2p or someone else. If it's me, no I wasn't insinuating anything.

tssss...tssss... it's going to start again... 2 days not online, and what do I see.... ugh Flame Wars, Flame Wars, meaningless discussions.... *ugh*
*sigh*

anyway still LOL with those *sigh* flame wars

I think the problem with the flamers recently is too much unchecked immature testosterone. All of these young guys in one forum trying to make a name for themselves. As someone once said in another thread with too much flaming involved....let's just take out a measuring stick and see who's is bigger and be done with it!

I repeat the previous was just a joke, please do not take it personally and begin to flame me in this very anti-flame thread! ;)

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Originally posted here by debwalin
I think the problem with the flamers recently is too much unchecked immature testosterone. All of these young guys in one forum trying to make a name for themselves. As someone once said in another thread with too much flaming involved....let's just take out a measuring stick and see who's is bigger and be done with it!

I repeat the previous was just a joke, please do not take it personally and begin to flame me in this very anti-flame thread! ;)

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Some people could use a little more of it
http://health.discovery.com/centers/...tosterone.html

I have been away for a while, and just looked at my antipoints screen and noticed that I received a few NEG's for my post.

Im sorry if I offended anyones religious beliefs, this was not my intention. I dont feel that my NEG point were warranted, but I would be happy to wipe the slate clean with preacherman and webcarnage.

Whenever, wherever
We're meant to be together
I'll be there and you'll be near
And that's the deal my dear

Thereover, hereunder
You'll never have to wonder
We can always play by ear
But that's the deal my dear

Well said {P²P}Apocalypse - If I said I never flame I'd be a liar...sometimes those lamers/script kiddies are just asking for it ;)

But I don't agree with flamming just for the sake of it or when its directed at someone just for expressing their own personnal view on a subject

But on stressfull days seeing the now all too familiar how do i hack hotmail posts is a welcome relief - someone to take my stress out on ;)

so come on peps follow {P²P}Apocalypse example extend your arm and shake each others hands (or slap some script kiddie round the bac of the head :D) hehe

v_Ln