What women want.....

Browsing through the movie channels tonight I came across an old film by micheal J Fox called The conicerge (1993)

For those of you who havn't seen it basically Fox plays a hotel Concierge who needs some rich guys backing to fund his dream project but they both love the same woman - same old kinda story line...but there was one bit got me thinking....

The rich guy is constantly trying to manipulate the woman and is always trying to think of the right thing to tell her. Now that may sound like every relationship the world over but what the question it raised in my mind was:

'If men spent less of their time trying to say what they think the woman wants to hear in order to get what they want and more time being an honest and good person towards them would they get what they want anyways?'

Perhaps it might work out better in the long run as its too hard to be constantly saying the right things....but if your just honest maybe sometimes you may say the wrong things but will the fact that your being honest and decent cancel out those times? Will it infact work out better in the long run?

People are always talking about telling people what they want to hear in order to carry favour but perhaps what people want to hear and what they actually want are 2 completely seperate things(!?) And maybe just maybe one is held in higher esteem than the other?

Heh ok I might have a lil too much to drink tonight but it has certainly gave me something to think about and I hope a few others too!

v_Ln

Always tell the truth unless the subject is her appearance or her weight. ;)

heh.

Yeah, the "How do I look?" and the "Do you think |I'm fat?" questions warrant a reflex answer. :) As does "Did you ever cheat on me?"

heh heh

Of course it would e nice to say that honesty is the best bet in the long run, but I just don´t think it is the truth all the time! Most of the time it is, but many times it is to difficult to explain the truth so that others actually understand what you are saying! So you choose the shortcut! I know this is wrong but it is a fact non the less! (This could be why you went drinking with the boys :))

One place where I never lie is the way i feel! If I feel something I say it, and that sometimes gets me into to trouble! Never lie about how you feel that gets you in trouble very fast, and you end up where you really don´t wanna be!

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'If men spent less of their time trying to say what they think the woman wants to hear in order to get what they want and more time being an honest and good person towards them would they get what they want anyways?'

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If women placed less emphasis on talking and analysing every word we say, how we said it and how we were acting when we said it and then calling their girlfriends to ask "last night he said .... what do you think he meant?", then maybe women would get what they want...honesty. ;)

Here's an idea: Just be yourself.

One girl may like u for something that another girl would hate u for. You just have to be urself and hope that the girl you want is the one that will like you for you. If a girl doesnt like you for you then it was not meant to be and you just have to continue on and hope that you do find the right one sooner or later. JUST BE YOURSELF, or truely YOU would never have gotten a girl.

--NetSyN

*sigh*


We aren't that hard guys...we just want you to tell us the truth, and love us. That's all we ask for. Just be our friend (yes, it's VERY possible) and love us, and don't play games with us. We analyse what you say, because a lot of the time, what you're saying is something we've heard before, and it wasn't true. Just be yourselves, and love us. That is ALL we want. Best of all....like I said, please be our friend.

Deb ;)

Wait, were not that hard either. You want to talk about simple minded creatures lets talk about men. Were the most simple creature in the universe. We dont want anything extravagent. Its nice to say Just be yourselves but its a two way street. Women have to be themselves also. Ive been in so many dumb relationships where i was with a girl and she was to fake. I love women. They are the most beutiful creatures ever created but they are also the most complex to figure out. So if ALL women want is a friend, ill gladly be there friend.

I think you are all right. I analyze every word if the person has had past behavior to make me suspicious. And the loaded question "Do these jeans make me look fat?" Why even ask? If he tells the truth she gets mad. If he lies she's mad because he lied.

I understand people say be yourself. If that is so, why do many people cheat on their spouse/lover?

Heh, I have found that honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. This seems to be even more pertinent in a relationship. I'm by no means an expert, but I currently have a very good running relationship that is based on honesty.

Now honesty doesn't mean telling them what they want to hear, and vice versa. Sometimes honesty hurts, but in the long run it's the best thing. Honesty will build a strong foundation for trust, and a good relationship is always based on mutual trust between partners.



/me laughs at the "shotgun"questions mentioned before.

Any time you hear a woman ask "does this make my butt look big?" you can just HEAR the shotgun being cocked in the background. No answer is right, pretend you are deaf ;)






El Diablo

Ok, let me say this. I think there can be exceptions to this just as you guys already mentioned. You have to keep her feelings in mind, but for the most part, it's best to tell how you actually feel. If not, you will find yourself in a situation wondering "how in the hell did I get myself into this!?" I've been there, and it's not too fun. My wife and I have developed a relationship where she asks me for my opinion on her outfits everyday. And you know what - I tell her exactly how I feel about how she looks in every outfit. The reason why she even bothers to ask me in the first place is because she knows that I will tell her the truth and not some buttered up, transformed, metamorphisized form of it... LOL Anyway, I think you can earn more respect by being honest; however, there is one small detail that gets many people in trouble when they are very honest with people - the delivery. I could tell you countless stories of how someone told another person the truth about how they felt, but it came across the wrong way and feelings were hurt. Think before you speak. ;)

My advice:

*Always* respect the woman you are with, that way you
don't have to think too long how to say something.

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I understand people say be yourself. If that is so, why do many people cheat on their spouse/lover?

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He's just being himself, a no good low-life...
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I know what women want ----- ME!!!! :) J/k all kidding aside....just one question for everyone that says being yourself is the answer........if thats true, then are there any women looking for a cowboy that is a computer geek too?

Being a male, and being with my girl for over 6 years, I have found not having an opinion and keeping my mouth shut works a treat! :D

/me favoiurs soggy bottoms approach ;)

v_Ln

There are some tidbits of very sound advice sprinkled throughout this thread, and I think we all owe the female members a large collective 'thank you' for sharing their insights with us. While reading the responses, I recalled another bit of wisdom that comes in handy when dealing with the 'fairer sex'. I can't take credit for this, as I believe it was Roy Rogers, 'The Singing Cowboy' who said "There are only two ways to argue with a woman....and neither of them work."

Happy Trails!!

This is my personal opinion and I must say that I have to agree with deb on this one. I found that honesty in life carries a lot of weight and if your life is based on that, you will be just fine. Believe me when I say that a guilty conscience is something that very often leads to somebody’s downfall, whether it be money wise, women or whatever the case maybe.

Regards
V/man
:)

Heh, I gotta agree with GG and Deb...we're not asking for much. Although last time i told a man to be himself, he stopped talking to me. Go figure! =(
So, my question is, what do men want?

From time to time, my wife asks what I call a test question. :confused:
There is one good answer to her test question and a lot of bad answers. :rolleyes:
That good answer and a logical, well reasoned answer are rarely the same.

Except for test questions , I'm honest with her.

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So, my question is, what do men want?

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heh thats an easy one ;)
a world where women can only say 5 things....

• You sit there - I'll make the tea!
• Honestly I don't mind if you go out all night with your friends
• Do you want me to pick up some beer for you as well as your pizza?
• Would you mind if my bestfriend joined us tonight?
• OMG!!! Thats huge!!!

:D

v_Ln

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Those Shotgun questions can be overcome "creatively". If she really loves you, etc., she won't mind. Be creative and honest with those answers. You can also lean towards what she likes if you think enough. Stuff like "Does this make me look fat". If you like how she looks, you can go "Yeah, you look PHAT, P-H-A-T!". Of course, that is if that response fits how you are. I wouldn't say that (honesty), but it depends... She might like it, and you're being honest, and by being creative, it can fit you... Then again, I live in a remote place where many of these girls just want some "fun", and others are good for relationships, though more rare...
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That sounds like it might be part of a tut in the Tutorials Section... Hmmmmm.... Well, I don't feel like writing one :D

-Tim_axe