Spy program...

I think my son on another computer in my house is accessing adult sites, graphic sites, entering adult chat sessions because he is always on the computer and everytime I walk in the room he shuts off the monitor (not the computer but the monitor) and then when I leave he turns it back on. I am looking for a spy program to monitor what he is going to/doing on this computer. Does anyone know if there is a free (non-destructive) remote spy program that I can download to catch screen images and keylog with?

(Please do not flame because I am NOT looking for a trojan horse program I am looking for a NON-destructive program just to check out what he's up to.)

Well...IMHO...depending on how old he is...why not just talk to him about it? Since there is obviously something going on. In the long run, again IMHO, that will be better for the both of you. He won't resent you for invading his privacy,and embarassing him...try this page for some tips
http://www.safekids.com/child_safety.htm

As a father I have to say this....why are you 'pussy-footing' around on this? Walk into his room, tell him to move out of the way and turn the moniter on. You're the parent, you set the rules of the house. While I recognise that everyone has a right to privacy, the fact that he turns the moniter off when when you come into the room indicates he has something to hide, and as long as he's a minor under your roof, you're responsible for his behaviour...PERIOD. Dig into his temporary internet files and click on the .htm extensions to view the pages he's looking at. Tell him that the next time he kills the moniter he loses computer privilidges for x amount of time. Make him use a chat client that logs the conversations. Spying is just going to teach him that it's ok to invade someones privacy without their knowledge and thats not a good message for a parent to send.

BTW...I've already been through this myself with my 13 yr. old....I let his mother confront him about the porn surfing....the embarrasment drove the point home so well that we have NEVER had the problem since.

Dont forget that the history folder works to save all the webpages he visits as well, plus its easier to see where he has been with the history folder. If you have to use a spy program, get a keylogger.
As allen said embarrassing him, by confronting him about it should be enough for him to stop. After you confront him about it give him the "birds and bees" speech to really get him embarrassed.

I agree with Darksnake, have a look at the history folder, do a find on *.jpg files and have a look at the Temporary Internet Files directory.

Thats how I sprung my old man surfing for porn when I was a kiddy :D

Thanks everyone. I'll take a look at the Temporary Internet Files, and the History folders for anything out of the ordinary.

Still, the best solutions are probably the non-technological ones, if you want a long-term trusting relationship with your child and all that parental stuff.

hrm.. Ryan , im not believing you that your son iz lookin at porn sites, i think you are just trying to ask us for a spy program to spy on one of your friends. Its kinda obvious when you hav posted 152 times and you have a ton of neg anti points.

Interestingly enough, I actually came across a news story that seems to validate my statement about mothers made above. If interested, use the link below...

http://www.reuters.com/news_article....toryID=1409957

As a son (even though I am 19) I would have to say that the best approach is to do as allen suggested! It would stop him from surfing pron sites (if he even is doing that), but you would have quite a big argument about it I guess! No one likes to get busted!

I think that you should first take the straightforward approach. He will respect you more if you are open with him, and it will work out better for you both, especially if he "fesses up."

You don't really give us very much info either......like what age is your son?
Maybe he ain't looking at porn at all - maybe he is just chattin with his friends and doesn't want you to see? Much the same as he wouldn't want you listening in on his phone calls!!

If you entered the room and started reading his chat convo of the screen it is basically the same thing!! Would you like people reading your private msgs? Or spying on you?? No I didn't think so - so why are you going to do it to your son?

Instead of being so sneaky why don't you just ask him about it? Don't seem angry or annoyed just concerned and you may find that its not as big a deal as your making out!!

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I think you should insist on talking about it to him first, before you go
into spying or making demands on him. You might save some of that
father-son relationship.

I personally routinely closed my monitor when I lived with my parents
even if I was just chatting with friends when my parents came to my
room... IMO parents don't need to know everything their kids do.

Heres a good spy progam if u feel the need to use it.

Spytech spy agent

completely hiden to the untrained eye, can be renamed to look like your average system task if looked open by the task list
moniters keystroke,takes pictures at set intervals,moniters icq, aim, all web activity incluing downloads and web pages vistited,and much more.

the best one out there i think

heres there home page http://www.agent-spy.com/

wtf iz this bullshit, this guy obviously iz trying to ask you guys for a spy program , not to spy on his son! He also obviously haz posted posts like this before because he waz BANNED from antionline. what iz with you people! you give me neg points. I think the antipoint system iz bullshit itself, god damnn!

lame.....

in my point of view it is kinda normal that an adolescent has curiosity in acceding porn sites or related stuff, but before taking some action, you should see if he became an habit or if it is sporadical (if you see the temporary internet files you should get a ideia), I do not find that a frontal aproach either good ideia therefore is probable that your son get resented, perhaps you should be more dissimulated make him understand that you already have suspicion of what he is doing and dont approve it and probably it will be the sufficient for it to be constrain and to stop.

I do not advise to you to use trojans or any type of software that is invasive therefore never knows if he see any application of it and start to use them for its proper ends. (Like spying on friends or You)

I think that is better to teach him to respect women and not to see them as an object overall teach him some life values.

Search the internet to see advices from people specialized in the subject.

But you must be the person who knows your son better therefore you will know how to act in the time 8)


Hope this help,
Bug_