Good manners..hard to find???

Hi people,
This is one of the things you do not find very often these days I must say.If you want me to be angry instantly,someone must enter a room,or pass you by and not say hello,good morning,hi or anything along those lines.I think basic manners and good behaviour of people,shows that you can communicate well,and you will be accepted better by the whole community at large.The way you present yourself to others I think is a direct reflection of what is going on inside of you.The secret of good manners is to treat people with dignity.Do not treat other people in the way you don’t want to be treated.

This includes respect,friendlyness,consideration,politeness and care for each other.Being self centered is very often a way of saying that you don’t need other people,you don’t need to be accepted and most of the time they don’t have respect for themselves.
A lot of people think the world owe’s them something,and therefore don’t see any reason to ccontribute anything positive to this world.

Someone once said”It is never too late to be what you might have been.”-George Elliot.

How do you guys feel about this aspect of life?

Regards
V/man:)

I think you're right on.There's a lot of very rude people out there.Being from the St. Louis area originally,I'm used to people just passing by without saying anything,because you can pass a thousand people just walking down the street,but it does bother me when I say something to somebody and they give me the holier than thou treatment.

I definately agree with the treat others as you want to be treated theory. If you have good manners, show respect, and treat others fairly, most likely you will be treated similarily.

There will always be those that are the exception to this but at least you can say you had the confidence to be the "better" man, or woman whichever is the case.

Independance is not saying you don't need other people, it is just saying that you have the ability to do many things on your own and that the accomplishments you have in life are ones you have chosen and worked toward. Those that treat others with disrespect often have no accomplishments and are the furthest from independant as one can get.

Guys I am not saying that everybody that you pass by should greet you.The point I am trying to make here is that it is most often people you know well, either in the workplace or your neighbourhood or sometimes even your kids friends and their parents.Let me give you a simple example:For instance when I go to my son's rugby match,and it is strait after work, I go in my working clothes because their is simply not enough time to get changed and see the game.Then they hardly want to know you.

It just amazes me that a change in clothing could make the difference between being greeted and ignored?

That is my opinion anyway.Good manners can only make you a better person:)

regards
v/man;)

Hye all!

Well I understand the whole snobby thing now that Im getting older. I come from a place in Dublin that would be considered working class, i.e. I aint got a lot of money. Now I worked my ass off to get to college, and I'm the only person except a good friend to get a place in the [second! ;) } best college in Ireland. I get there and the second I open my mouth and they here my accent wow!

They just shunned me! Thats the posh people now, the other more open minded, not rich kids are great, they dont care what way you talk. They are from the country or abroad and are a thousend times more open minded than the so called rich, smart kids.

Anyway just a rant.

I am quiet and often find it hard to say hi to just any ol person, talks a little getting knowing before you say Good Morning with me, its not because I dislike you, it's because I dont know you....

Anyway, the world will never change, lol!

;)

I guess I'm lucky, in a way. I live in a village of about 100 people. Everybody waves, nods, or greets each other in some manner all the time. Even walking down the street, people you pass who are in their yards will say hello. I don't think manners and courtesy are dead yet; I think city people are just in too much of a rush to bother. Here, life is slow paced, nobody is in a hurry, and they'll take the time to acknowledge each other.

i work in a building where everyone ignoes everybody. i greet everone i see, even when they didn't greet me back, I ignore all the pettynesses that happen and don't get involved in them. as time passed every one now greets me. i can have a conversation anytime with any body....most still don't talk to each other but my condition is better :-)

Heh....I live in an area where perfect strangers will strike up a conversation with you...people you pass while driving wave even though they don't have a clue as to who you are. Nice isn't dead, it just moved out to the country!

It all starts with you IMHO... I say hello to as many people as I can and do it with a smile... Like many who have posted I am from the country and find myself in the "big city" living and working... I don't feel my day is complete unless I have put a smile on a complete strangers face... But then again that was the way I was brought up...

Allen, don't you think it is time nice moved back and make a few ppl smile.You know it makes my day if i can put a smile on somebody's face.Let's offer him/her a free furniture removal ha...ha..Just joking allen.

A smile a day keeps harm at bay.

regards
v/man:)

I agree with those of you who live in small towns. I do too, and I can go to the gas station and spend 45 minutes talking to the people there...lol. It helps that I talk a lot, but the fact that you live in a small town seems to make you much freer to speak to people...whether you know them or not. My husband is from Milwaukee and it blew him away the way you wave at everyone you pass going down the road...lol.

Also, from a different perspective, as far as plain old good manners go, it has to be taught. And unfortunately a lot of parents are dropping the ball on that one. My son is very well mannered, he say yes ma'am and no ma'am and yes sir and no sir to adults, which is normal here. But I read not long ago from one of the well known manner columnists that teaching your child to do that is "outdated and antiquated." Maybe so, but my son is accepted everywhere we go, older people love him, and it certainly hasn't hurt him. I have also taught him to open doors for women, and to ALWAYS speak when spoken to, etc. I think that if parents took more time with their children, and showed them by their actions, we might live in a friendlier world.

Deb :D

Personally, I would not want to greet everyone. I walk by a lot of people in my school, at work, on the street, in the mall, at the movies, anywhere I go. If everyone was well mannered and saying hello... well, that would be bad. I couldn't deal with it. But then again, if there is an incident that two people connect to, they will connect to it. People just need a reason. Go play a pick up game of basketball. The kids there get along. They have something to connect to, a basketball. If a line is long somewhere, people can let out a long sigh and get some sympathy.

Sir and ma'am, I believe, is sort of unnecessary. At least in PA it is. You don't need a sir, or a ma'am to be liked and respected by adults. Just smile, and make sure to wish them a good day.

A greeting I don't like: Hi, how are you? Noone really means the how are you part. They just want you to say hello. It's just an extension that means nothing.

My thoughts: If you know the person, acknowledge them, if you don't, it's not required.

A few places are pretty common to greet other strangers, for example, in the gym. All the men seem to greet each other, well those who lift weights at least. Also, around here.. if you're riding a motorcycle, you always wave at other motorcyclists.