Here lately it seems we have had an over abundance of people spreading hate and discontent in the AO forums. We have several individuals that would seem to have nothing better than to turn every thread into a flame war or to attempt to cause conflict. Myself in general have a happy go lucky kind of a look on life. A live and let live attitude in like. I believe this to be rooted deep in our own self esteem and worth. If one can't be happy, them one can't get along.
What then is happiness? Probably it is best described as a sense of well-being, a feeling of self-approval. When we like and approve of ourselves, we become more outgoing, more social. We make more contacts, we are more social and reaching out. We touch others with our sense of well-being.
Our sense of well-being makes us happy and we are self-satisfied. Then we reach out to others and make loving contact in friendly relations. We engage in social behavior. In a way, we are spreading our good will about ourselves and we make others happy.
Happy people are social; with the absence of joy, persons tend to cut themselves off from others and spend waking hours alone and turned away from social situations. And this solitude reinforces the aloneness.
The capacity for happiness, for feelings of joy, must be developed by ourselves. In the past our failure has been to wait for happiness, to believe that, at some point in our lives, we will be happy. Studies of people now show that those who are happy worked at being so.
To be happy, we must develop a positive attitude about life. That is a prerequisite for happiness. We automatically cancel any chance of happiness if we start with feelings such as, "Nothing good ever happens to me, " or "Life is a big mess and I hate it."
The pleasure we will get from life is not fore-ordained. We must work toward developing it. It is, in fact, for us to control, for us to decide, for us to pursue. Pessimists are rarely happy, being too consumed with what has gone wrong and what will go wrong.

So in conclusion one must only try to please oneself and become happy. Then you can spead the wealth. Don't be content on starting flame wars or being nonproductive. Contribute and become an attribute to the forum. Hate only brings us down, and brings about unhapiness. So if one can't contribute in a kind way. Then dont. It IS that simple. You can always agree to dis agree. Be be polite and kind about it.

To all in the group. Flamers and non-flamers alike. Be happy, enjoy life and most of all be kind to your fellow man. Because then one you are unkind to today, you may need the support of tomorow.

Peace