Oh good grief....

I know this isn't going to be very helpful.... but setting up relays on a server that you don't have permission to use tends to make people very angry....

And when I say angry, I mean the kind of angry that tends to involve law enforcement and jail time...

And when I say jail time, I mean the kind of place where "ankle grabber" takes on a whole new meaning...

I'd suggest you read the folowing:
http://www.antionline.com/showthread...hreadid=251402

http://www.antionline.com/showthread...hreadid=252708

Then dust yourself off and try again.