What you're really asking for is what comes with experience. What you have been doing the past few years, is what you should be doing. Over time, you will gain knowledge, and then you will be the one answering questions. But this isn't just for computers, it is the way life works.

You say you have been reading stuff around AO; but what? Stuff from the forums, of the Text files and playing around with the programs? If you haven't, I suggest you start there. You can find links to those sections, on the Site Menu.
And of course, there is Google. But I presume you already know about that. heh.