Thank you for the responses.
Unfortunately I did check my outgoing blocking, and I have only a few programs there and very little being blocked.

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as far as starting up on my system, this is basically my "research" lab, I develop online applications and it runs Mysql,SQL Server, Java, IIS, mail server, ftp server, one bot, trillian, and alot more. However, the amount or the app. themselves have never been an issue. I had ZoneAlarm installed previously and it did not hog the system this way.