thats what it sounds like except for this:

"I can't even email the tech support people at hostsave, it gets intercepted from the spammers... "

so i checked and looks like it is an open relay:

220 logs-xxxxxxx.com ESMTP Sendmail 8.12.9/8.12.9; Thu, 24 Jul 2003 00:01:05 GMT

HELO hostsave.com
250 logs-xxxxxxx.com Hello AC913548.ipt.aol.com [172.145.53.72], pleased to meet you

MAIL FROM:<<me>[email protected]>
250 2.1.0 <[email protected]>... Sender ok

RCPT TO:<me.com>
250 2.1.5 <me.com>... Recipient ok

DATA
354 Enter mail, end with "." on a line by itself

To: me.com

From: me.com (Spade relay check)

Subject: hostsave.com relay check

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250 2.0.0 h6O0157u228395 Message accepted for delivery

QUIT
221 2.0.0 me.com closing connection

wouldn't it be ironic if hostsave subscribes to a black-hole service and thats why she can't reach tech support?