I'd like to be the one advising my son on whether or not abstinence is right for him
Isn't it up to him to decide if it's right for him? Instead of someone else (even his mom) pushing it down his throat?

Frankly I find this whole philosophy troubling. If it's up to each of us to determine what's right for us individually, who's to say that anybody is wrong in what conclusion they've reached in their search for "what works for them"? Under this philosophy no one should ever be forbidden from doing anything that they've determined is right for them - even murder, stealing, molestation, etc. That's anarchy, not liberty.

Personally, I don't like that schools teach morality at all - either as seen by the "christian right" or the "liberal left". That's the duty of parents, not teachers. Teachers should be teaching Math, Science, History, English, etc. They should be checking their opinions (agendas) at the door.