How do you know that they where lissening in on you? How do you know any of the information that was provided. Meaning how did you discover that you are being hacked?

your computer is it static or DHCP from the internet provider? if static call and have it changed.
Format the computer and reinstall the OS.
Change email address and only give this information to the people you know and trust.
call the phone company and change your phone #.

This is the only way you can be sure you get this guy out of your life.